The Power of Words
I saw this today, and thought it was incredibly powerful.
𝐀𝐯𝐨𝐢𝐝 𝐬𝐚𝐲𝐢𝐧𝐠 “𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝.” 𝐈𝐧𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐚𝐝 𝐫𝐞𝐟𝐫𝐚𝐦𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐫𝐞𝐩𝐡𝐫𝐚𝐬𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭.
When I used to install software, I tried to never say something “should work,” instead I would say “it works this way…” The use of the word should suggests uncertainty about the results, which was never reassuring when you were changing someone’s business model. If I wasn’t confident in my software, why should they be.
I know whenever I hear the words “I should” come out of my mouth, I could add “but probably won’t” to it, because so seldom does “should” result in action. Many times, “should” is just another way of saying no.
Have you ever said any of these things:
“I should exercise.”
“I should do laundry.”
“I should go on a diet.”
“I should get more sleep.”
“I shouldn’t eat this second piece of pie.”
Now, did that ever motivate you into action or to make a change.
As an alternative, focus on the positive results of those actions.
“I really like how I feel after a good workout.”
“I need to have clean shirts for work tomorrow.”
“I could eliminate some daily meds if I lost X pounds.”
“I’ll feel so much better in the morning if I get an extra hour of sleep tonight.”
And, if you really want to motivate yourself, pick a when.
“I really like how I feel after a good workout, so tomorrow after work I’m going to walk on the treadmill”
“I need to have clean shirts for work tomorrow, so I’m going to start the laundry during the next commercial.”
Our words have power even if we are only talking to ourselves. They affect our expectations. using the right words will help you to achieve your goals.
Are there any other words or phrases that you try to avoid?